/ Wednesday, March 8, 2017
Our 8th Anniversary *YouTube Video*
YouTube video at the very end! :-)
Then, March 7th, 2009
And now. Well, November 2016.
My husband walked into our room this morning and said, "Happy Anniversary honey!" Then he extended his fists upward like he just won a UFC fight and added, "8 years! We made it!" 😂 Two stubborn, hard-headed people in a marriage together isn't for the faint of heart! Every single issue we have ever had in our marriage has been over stubbornness and petty arguments, however, I believe our love for each other has made us conquerors.
We have had more good times in our marriage than bad, but the bad sucked! Although we would like to think otherwise, he and I are complicated individuals. When we have opinions towards something we are vehement with our reasoning and when we disagree, agreeing to disagree hasn't alway been as easy as it is for us now.
There have been moments when arguments- petty arguments, sadly- have nearly brought us to the end of our relationship. Taking a day to cool off was beneficial to reflect on whether or not "the end" was what we really wanted. Once we came back together we discussed whether or not we wanted to grow together or grow apart. Both options take effort. Growing apart means we would make the choice to neglect the marriage and put 100% effort towards self and the children only, without regard for the other person. Growing together means we make a choice to put 100% effort towards improving ourselves to meet the needs of the marriage. Both paths take planning. As you can see, we chose to grow together.
Growing together doesn't always happen naturally, and that's okay. Whatever it took to make the marriage work in the beginning may change from year to year or every few years or so. Things change, people change. Sometimes there's so much focus on *me* and *I* that it hinders the growth of *us* and *we* so we realized that we have had to kind of reframe our minds and thoughts according to our plan.
After we created a plan we took action.
It's important that our plan focused on the needs of each of us, not what we think the other needs. For example, I think, no, I know, my husband needs a better wardrobe, BUT he hates when I buy him new clothes. Small, but relevant example. That's one of many important lessons I've learned so far lol.
Love has made us focus on individual self-improvement with awareness and consideration of what it takes to please the other, without losing the best parts of who we are. In making a conscious effort to improve and strengthen our relationship we gain the ability to peacefully and joyfully coexist with each other for the greater good of us and our children.
There's no one formula to any relationship because no relationship is the exact same. There are a variety of different issues in each relationship, whether big or small, but hopefully, my experience is helpful to anyone who reads this that could use the advice. I hope I didn't come off as if I have the key to a perfect relationship or anything of that sort. I can only speak from my personal experience. Experience is a great teacher if we allow it to be.
We're still deeply in love, growing stronger and better every single day. 8 years down, a lifetime to go. ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
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Then, March 7th, 2009
And now. Well, November 2016.
My husband walked into our room this morning and said, "Happy Anniversary honey!" Then he extended his fists upward like he just won a UFC fight and added, "8 years! We made it!" 😂 Two stubborn, hard-headed people in a marriage together isn't for the faint of heart! Every single issue we have ever had in our marriage has been over stubbornness and petty arguments, however, I believe our love for each other has made us conquerors.
We have had more good times in our marriage than bad, but the bad sucked! Although we would like to think otherwise, he and I are complicated individuals. When we have opinions towards something we are vehement with our reasoning and when we disagree, agreeing to disagree hasn't alway been as easy as it is for us now.
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During my labor of our now 8-year-old. My mom, husband, and me. |
There have been moments when arguments- petty arguments, sadly- have nearly brought us to the end of our relationship. Taking a day to cool off was beneficial to reflect on whether or not "the end" was what we really wanted. Once we came back together we discussed whether or not we wanted to grow together or grow apart. Both options take effort. Growing apart means we would make the choice to neglect the marriage and put 100% effort towards self and the children only, without regard for the other person. Growing together means we make a choice to put 100% effort towards improving ourselves to meet the needs of the marriage. Both paths take planning. As you can see, we chose to grow together.
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We're homeowners! Sorry about the quality. |
Growing together doesn't always happen naturally, and that's okay. Whatever it took to make the marriage work in the beginning may change from year to year or every few years or so. Things change, people change. Sometimes there's so much focus on *me* and *I* that it hinders the growth of *us* and *we* so we realized that we have had to kind of reframe our minds and thoughts according to our plan.
After we created a plan we took action.
It's important that our plan focused on the needs of each of us, not what we think the other needs. For example, I think, no, I know, my husband needs a better wardrobe, BUT he hates when I buy him new clothes. Small, but relevant example. That's one of many important lessons I've learned so far lol.
Love has made us focus on individual self-improvement with awareness and consideration of what it takes to please the other, without losing the best parts of who we are. In making a conscious effort to improve and strengthen our relationship we gain the ability to peacefully and joyfully coexist with each other for the greater good of us and our children.
We're still deeply in love, growing stronger and better every single day. 8 years down, a lifetime to go. ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
Follow by email to receive updates on my latest blog posts!
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My husband's grandmother snapped this one of us. I obviously had no idea, until she texted it to me. |
Our first time visiting Walt Disney World!
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ZJ isn't pictured because he was afraid of the characters. |
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I added this one for giggles. He tried to dunk me into the water. The man behind the camera watching and laughing- my own father! LOL |
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