/ Monday, August 3, 2015
Introducing Your Child To a New Relationship: Is It Too Early for Baby Future (Ciara) & Russell?
I don't normally get into celebrity gossip, but I was drawn to this drama because I went through a similar situation and I grew irritated from all the negativity on social media from single men with children regarding their disagreement with Ciara's personal choices involving her child and her man.
If you haven't been keeping up with celebrity news in mainstream media, and/or do not know who Ciara and Russell are, here's a quick rundown for ya...
Go here, here, here, and here for more details.
My personal opinions...
*My views are in response to comments I have read.
We really don't know how long Ciara and Russell have been dating. It became public when we saw a photo of them at an event they attended earlier this year. Future probably doesn't know how long they have really been dating because it's none of his business. She doesn't have to report who she dates to him.
Future cannot dictate her love life or who she chooses to bring around their child. There's an exception if the child is in danger, which he doesn't appear to be.
It's ridiculous and immature to think that one can't put her children first because she's dating. Yeah, some mothers are triflin' like that and will put a relationship before her child, but Ciara seems to be much smarter than that. If people can be great parents while married, they can be great parents while dating.
If it doesn't work out, oh well. So what if things don't work out. I'm sure there are makeup artists and hairstylists and performers around him all the time; temporary people. The child will know a number of teachers or tutors, friends, and other people in his life who will come and go. He will not be mentally damaged if the relationship doesn't work out. He won't even remember the guy! He's 1-year-old for goodness sake! Whether they stay together or not, it will not have a long-term effect on the child.
There is most definitely a double standard. We don't know the specifics of how long Future knew Ciara before introducing his children or baby momma's to one another or how involved Ciara was with his children when they first started dating. From what I've read, they were introduced within months. He can introduce his children to his new boo early, but it's a problem when she does it?
The REAL issue is men and their pride and insecurities. Men get upset that another man appears to be playing "daddy", his role is being shared, and his pride is affected. When another man is involved, he allowed his emotions take over, becomes illogical, and acts out by trying to dictate what the mother can and can't do regarding their child.
It's ridiculous that Future is using social media and radio interviews to negatively voice his opinion regarding his ex-fiance and her man. He's really making himself look like the fool. He needs to mind his own business and let that woman thrive. He trusted her enough to make a baby with her. He trusted her enough to plan on spending the rest of his life with her, so he should trust her enough to know that she's a wise woman and has their child's best interest at heart.
Thanks for reading!
What's your opinion regarding timing, when introducing a child or children to new significant other?